Saturday, December 01, 2007

December 1 of 31

Last night was horrible again. Sean woke up at about 3:45 am, and would not take the bottle in his bed (I tried this first, as it's worked before, where he'll still be somewhat asleep, drink what he wants and then rolls over asleep). So I brought him into our bed, and he fell asleep after drinking his bottle in my arms. A little bit later, I tried transferring him back to his crib, and he realized he was in his crib, sat up and and started bawling his eyes out.

I do not know what to do.

This can't keep happening. I'm ready to rip my hair out.

He can't keep sleeping in my bed. I'm exhausted when he does. I don't sleep properly. Why can't he go back into his crib like he does the first part of the night?? I just don't understand why he's being so attached to me as of late. It can't be the move to the new house, we've been here 2 weeks now, and this is the first sign of it. Plus, he's good at sleeping over at my in-law's and my parents house. Can't be that? Can't be the new baby on the way, I'm barely showing, and he doesn't know/realize?? Can't be that? Teething? Why would he be more clingy now than before with his other teeth?

I do not know what to do. All I know is that I'm exhausted, and this can't keep up.

This afternoon during his nap, I tried to transfer him TWICE to his crib. No go. He just wanted to nap in my arms. I was sooo tired, I let him, because I wanted to sleep too.

Tonight, I'm not letting him sleep in our bed. No matter how much he cries.

We just got in from a friend's birthday dinner at his girlfriends house. It was a fabulously delicious dinner. Home italian cooking. Delicious! We even got to bring home leftovers. I won't complain! I think I'm coming down with a cold. My nose is running. Sucky deal.

Just a reminder, there is 1 more day to purchase yourself a December Sock Club kit. I've left them onsale over the weekend. I've also decided to add some extra little goodies to the December Sock Club kits for the holidays - since they'll be arriving around Xmas time. Here's your last chance to endulge in the goodness! The yarn I have to says is wintery delicious, and the pattern is absolutely beautiful. I'm also in love with the stitch markers I've made to match the yarn. Last chance!

Noro is now on sale until December 10th. 15% off, just like the Claudia's Handpainted. Both will remain 15% off until the 10th, which is a week Monday.


AliP said...

Children go through phases of separation anxiety and night terrors. Check some books or websites to see how to most effectively deal with your situation. Have you ever tried the method of putting your pajama top or nighty in the crib before laying the babe back down? Sometimes just the smell of you and that warmth will keep them from jolting awake and crying.
It is hard. I know how you feel ( I really really do) but this too will pass (even though it feel like its forever). Ben was very demanding and didn't sleep well at all. Cameron was a better sleeper but as a toddler was attached to me at bedtime like glue.
We also alternated who did bedtimes. My husband eventually had to do Ben's bedtime because I had no room on my lap to cuddle him in the rocking chair and it just hurt my belly etc too much for his wriggles and kneeings. This made it easier when Cameron finally arrived, a divide and conquer mode of parenting...LOL

Bea said...

I don't have any kids so I can't give you any advice. I hope he stops crying soon!

Kim said...

Oh man, I'm sure you're at the end of your rope. I don't have any answers for you other than I agree with alip. Kids do go through phases. What about having him sleep in a bassinett next to your bed (to old for that? I don't know). Or when he wakes up in the night for feedings, feed him in his room, so he knows he has to stay there? Just a few thoughts. Good luck and I hope you get some sleep soon!

O. said...

Gosh, I hope your baby feels better soon, whatever is bothering him or whatever the issue is, I hope it gets resolved so you both can get some much needed sleep! Keeping my fingers crossed all goes well soon.

dawn said...

I know how hard it is to listen to your son cry but sometimes I think that's the only way to go. I don't know how many times I had to let my now going on 4 year old cry it out when he was your sons age. My one year old is the opposite and is a great sleeper. Maybe it was my fault and I babied the first one who knows. Just find something that works and try to stick to it. It will get better I promise.

lauriec said...

My initial thoughts were "New house" & "teething".

My *personal opinion* is to not take him into your bed (if you're a co-sleeper believer then rock on, go for it, PERSONALLY I couldn't do it as I slept horribly when the wee one slept w/ me). You teach him that it's okay to move into your bed if he wakes during the night.

Does he use a soother or any type (the fisher price aquarium was our lifesaver from 2 months on!)? If the wee one woke up I would go into her room, tell her I loved her but it was time for sleep, turn on the soother, rub her back & after a little bit (less than 5 min) try to leave the room.

Again--my personal opinion--it may come down to a litte CIO. Not everyone approves of it & it's not for every baby. It worked for us & helped the wee one learn to put herself back to sleep during the night.

That being said, when she was almost 2 & Daddy was coming home from Iraq she would wake up every other night or so for 2-3 hrs & all she wanted was me to sit in her room. The only thing we could figure out was that she was sensing my anticipation.

Good luck & get some rest while he's napping!!! This too shall pass!!

Barbara B. Solbrig said...

It seems like it shouldn't be the move since it has been a couple of weeks now, and he has stayed over at your parents. That said, it still could be the move. Kids sommetimes take a while to show us that they have registered the change in their lives. They also pick up on a lot of other changes we don't think of. He may be sensing your hormonal changes; or these teeth may be worse than the others; it could be the mix of the new house, the old house, and staying at your folks over the whole move process, and the stress is coming out now of all the different places. It could be a combination of all of the above, or it could be none!
Consistancy of bedtime and middle of the night stuff is best. I found that snuggleing in the middle of the night was not really the best answer as then they wanted it all the time. I would lay them back down and rub their back and talk to them gently about going back to sleep, but wouldn't snuggle. It was hard on all of us for a week or so, but it got better.

Jennifer said...

Your runny nose might be a cold but is probably the pregnancy hormones. I had a runny nose my entire pregnancy...something about the hormones causing excess mucus production. Whatever- it was annoying!

I know EXACTLY what you mean re: the sleeping. I'm going through the exact thing with Jakob these days. He used to sleep from 8pm to 7:30am, now he's waking up around 3:30/4:00am and not going back to sleep without a lot of soothing or possibly feeding, and we've let him cry over an hour and a half but he keeps waking up and crying. Now it's spreading to his afternoon naps...he's EXHAUSTED but the minute I put him down he wakes up to cry. If I pat his belly he goes to sleep instantly...I stop and he cries again. I'm hoping it's 'cus his Zantac dose isn't high enough for his current weight. Our doc recommended going up a bit so I'll try that tonight and hope it helps!

For Sean...maybe there's a tooth coming in? He can also probably smell you differently 'cus of the pregnancy hormones, so maybe he's not sure what's going on and just wants to cuddle. Plus he's almost 1 so there could be a growth spurt causing him to be in pain a bit.

I like that idea of putting something you sleep with in the crib with him. I think I'm going to try that when I leave Jakob over the holidays.

Good luck!

g-girl said...

oh hon. :( I'm thinking he probably senses that there is another baby coming. I mean, one of my friends told me how her niece would cry when she came around (while she was pregnant) and they said it was because she (niece) knew her aunt was pregnant with a boy. So who knows. Letting him sleep with something of yours sounds like a good idea. I hope you find something that works.